When something significant happens in someone's life we tend to gather...a birthday, wedding, baby, funeral. We let the person involved know that we are there, still part of their life, still close even if geographically distant. We share thoughts and memories, and generally have a nice time. But there are some significant events we don't turn up to...having the house repossessed, being diagnosed with schizophrenia, being made redundant, separating from our long term partner. It seems strange. When is it that support is most required and most appreciated? When celebrating, or when struggling?
Next time you're invited to a party go and celebrate, but make a resolution to be there next time they face a hardship, too.